Update on Butch Voices Boston Community Conversation

Is it really, truly, honestly almost February? Sweet gay Jesus, where does the time go?? Life has been a flurry of planning, partying, and general queerness lately, so my sincerest apologies for being such an absentee blogger. I promise I will put up an actual respectable post on here soon, but for the moment, I want to give you all an update on the Butch Voices Boston Community Conversation on February 16th.

First off, slots are filling up fast! The room caps at 50, so get on the guest list ASAP! Here’s the event on Facebook, but please also RSVP all official-like by sending an email with your name and contact information with “Boston” in the subject line to: registration@BUTCHVoices.com.

Secondly, BIG NEWS ZOMG: We now have an OFFICIAL Boston Community Conversation after-party! Join us for a mixer and dance party at One Night Stand, Boston’s newest – and hottest – queer club night. (The first ever One Night Stand was a massive success last month, hurrah!) If you’ll be in town and want to check out the action, make sure to sign up ahead of time on the VIP list for half-priced cover. Just tell ’em ButchBoi Life sent ya.

And last but not least, I hope to see many of your smiling faces on the 16th, dear readers! This is the first ever event like this in Boston, so let’s make it a great one, team.


Dyke Events to Watch Out For: One Night Stand and BUTCH Voices Hits Boston

Happy Friday, dear readers – and Happy Hanukkah to all you lovely Jewish queers out there! I’m coming at ya today with not one, but TWO major announcements about upcoming events that I’m helping to organize. It is the season of giving, after all, and I’m about to give you a couple very good reasons to be in Boston this winter.

First off, following on the successful heels of our first butch-femme mixer, ButchBoi Life and MadFemmePride are joining forces once again to bring you a night of mingling, games, flirting, dancing, and the commitment-free debauchery that we are so skilled at: One Night Stand. A collaboration with DJ Jodi Entertainment, Studio A Entertainment, DJ Moxie, DJ Double D, Super Squirrel, Zurma Productions and Kristen Porter (of Dyke Night fame), One Night Stand will be at Who’s On First (19 Yawkey Way, Boston) on Saturday, January 19th from 8:00 PM to 2:00 AM. The evening begins with our butch-femme mixer from 8:00-9:00, then we’ll segue right into the epic dance party. The best part, besides the fact that yours truly will be there to greet you? It’s cheap! Sign up for the One Night Stand VIP list to receive a half-price cover at the door – and please be sure to check off ButchBoi Life in the “I heard about this event from” section.

In February, BUTCH Voices, ButchBoi Life, and the Boston University Queer Activists Collective are totally stoked to bring you BUTCH Voices Community Conversation: Boston edition on Saturday, February 16th from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM in The Center for Gender, Sexuality and Activism at Boston University (775 Commonwealth Ave., Boston). A sure-to-be-amazing day of discussion panels and community building, the conference is free to attend; however, space is limited, so PLEASE RSVP by sending an email with your name, contact information, and “Boston” in the subject line to: registration@BUTCHVoices.com. We want to cover a wide range of topics that day and are still taking suggestions, so if there’s something that you think should be part of the conversation, leave it here in the comments or on the FB event page. If you’re in Boston and are interested in helping moderate sessions that day, that would also be pretty sweet and I’ll probably give you a hug/high five/fist bump to say thanks (depending on your preferred method of bro-ing out, of course).

So, in summary: Lots of great stuff on the horizon in 2013, I am insanely busy and insanely excited, and also you should probably move to Boston.

Update: I’ve Been Doing Stuff (Just Not Blogging Stuff)

Hey there, Cyberland! It’s been another long time no type. Maybe I should just start saving all my resolutions for the New Year, just to be safe, eh? Now that I’ve got you all listening to the RENT soundtrack (as if you weren’t already doing just that), I want to give you a quick update about something I’ve been working on that I am REALLY SUPER STOKED ABOUT. No, it’s not a blog post (though a legit one of those is coming very soon, Butch Scout’s Honor) – it’s a real live, in-person event for real, live persons!

As you may already know, I’m the co-founder of an organization in Boston known as ButchBoi Life that serves as a social club/support group for butches, studs, bois, and all masculine-of-center queer women. Mostly we have discussion group style meetings, but sometimes we put on “after hours” events. This time, we’ve teamed up with the lovely ladies of Mad Femme Pride to create the first of hopefully many mixers. Hooray for queer community building!

Our first mixer is next Saturday, the 8th from 12:00-2:00 PM at Sacco’s Bowl-Haven in Davis Square, Somerville. Come for the bowling, pizza, and libations; stay for all the ridiculously good-looking butches and femmes! Pretty nifty, eh? If you’re in the area, I sure hope you stop by and see my amusingly awful legendary bowling skills in action. You know you wanna…

Another thing: My favorite local queer book club is back and better than ever! Our next book will be Fingersmith. I’ve never read any Sarah Waters (I know, bad lesbian I am), but I did see the Tipping the Velvet miniseries. Her stuff is sexy, yes? I’m hoping it’ll be sexy enough to get me through the close to 600 pages in that book before mid-January. If you’re a fellow Boston area queer who also likes books and hanging out with other queers, leave me a message here and I’ll give you the deets about how to join the fun. Last meeting, there were cookies and eggnog. I’m just sayin’.

ANOTHER ‘nother thing: Queer Open Mic is still going strong! The next meeting is this coming Thursday, the 6th at 7:00 PM at Unity Somerville. I’ll be there, sharing whatever piece I manage to write for this blog next week, and so will be many crazy-talented queer writers, poets, and musicians (I almost typed “magicians,” which I WISH).

In summary: Boston is a really queer place and I love it. I also love you all, and that’s why I will buckle down and WRITE WRITE WRITE next week. Until then, have a good weekend and stay warm out there, kiddos.

Proof That I Am Not Dead, Just Bad At Time Management

Hark! The Prodigal Butch has returned! Dear readers (if I still have any left), I am all kinds of sorry for not updating in two whole weeks (though, maybe, we could just say this post is very fashionably late?), but life just kind of exploded – not in the bad, IED way, but in the holy-moley-so-much-to-do way. I’ve been busy! Just, you know, not busy writing for my own blog. That will change! I pinky swear it, and I don’t take pinky swears lightly. You’ll get a real, bona fide post – in which I’ll tell of my trials and tribulations in suit shopping – real soon. In the meanwhile, here’s some evidence that I haven’t actually been spending the past two weeks on a beach in Cancun with tiny umbrella-adorned beverages and a team of dedicated Cabana girls:

The first ever meeting of ButchBoi Life was this past Sunday and guys, it was a great success! We had over 20 attendees, which was like three times the amount I had thought would show up (low expectations = the secret to success). BBL really is the only group of its kind in this area, which definitely helped boost the numbers; the second nearest butch social group I know of is in NYC. Our discussions covered a wide range of topics, including coming out to your family as a butch/stud/boi, butch-femme relations, haircuts, dealing with street harassment, and how to be a gentleman. Timeless stuff.

I was stoked to meet so many new people and engage in some good ol’-fashioned lesbian over-analyzing, and I loved how enthusiastic everybody was. But the best part, I think, was how diverse our group was. There were so many races, ethnicities, socioeconomic backgrounds, and ages present, which never friggin’ happens in the absurdly segregated Boston queer scene. Afterwards, we all went out to dinner at the delicious Redbones, because that’s just how we roll (covered in BBQ sauce). If you’re in the Boston area and like being surrounded by awesome butches (you know you do), I hope to see you at our next meeting! We even have an official Facebook page now, for “liking” purposes. Check it out for details on upcoming meetings/dinners/events/general debauchery.

Also, I did a guest post! It’s for the fantastic Butchlesque blog. If you’re in Florida and want to see a bunch of butches on stage, this is the place to be. Apparently they have a Single Femmes table, which I really wish would become a thing at every queer venue. Anywho, I Twittersourced questions from femmes about the mysterious Ways of the Butch and posted my sage responses. If any of you lovely ladies out there have a butch-related inquiry that I didn’t cover yet, send it my way – I’ll be doing a part two.


See how productive I’ve been? You can’t even be mad.

Announcing ButchBoi Life: A Place for Bois Like Us

These are exciting times we live in, dear readers. Washington gays can now get gay married all over the gay ol’ place. There’s a crooning butch on The Voice. Adele has been crowned Empress of the Universe (and Chris Brown Douchemaster Supreme). I’m co-founding a new social group for Boston area butches, bois, and studs.

Oh, you hadn’t heard about that last bit? That’s probably because you get all your news from After Ellen. Here’s the 411, son: Recently, I was commiserating with a friend and fellow MOC queer about the lack of a tight-knit butch community in Boston. There are plenty of us around, but no place where we can all hang out and actually have conversations about our lives and experiences (as opposed to the mean mugs or subtle head nods that we usually give each other in public). I was all like, “Whine, whine, whine, community, whine, whine,” and she was all like, “How about we start a meet up group?” and I was all like, “OMG BEST IDEA EVER YES.” And that, my friends, is how ButchBoi Life was born.

Here’s our official mission statement, because we’re fuckin’ professionals:

The mission of ButchBoi Life is to bring masculine-of-center identified women from different backgrounds together. It has become apparent that masculine identified women are struggling to gain visibility in the LGBTQ community. ButchBoi Life will provide a safe space for us to discuss the issues we face, socialize, and find others we can relate to.
Bi-weekly meetings will be held at various venues throughout the Boston area.

ButchBoi Life strives to maintain a safe space where all opinions and ideas are respected. We welcome individuals from all races, backgrounds, and masculine of center identities.

Pretty snazzy, huh? Each meeting, we’ll be tackling a new topic related to the masculine-of-center queer experience. Our first meeting will be held at the Blue Shirt Café in Somerville on Sunday, March 11th from 2:00-3:30 PM. The topic will be: “What was it like to come out as a butch/stud/boi?” As I like to call it, it’s the Second Coming Out, where you get to explain not just your sexual orientation, but your gender identity as well – whee!

If you’re a butch/boi/stud/MOC queer in the Boston area and you’d like to spend time with some really cool people (and me), please come down on the 11th and join us! Or if you know anybody who might be interested and (*gasp!*) doesn’t read this blog, spread the word. The more the merrier/rowdier/increasingly annoying to other patrons. Hope to see you there in all your butch glory!