Announcing ButchBoi Life: A Place for Bois Like Us

These are exciting times we live in, dear readers. Washington gays can now get gay married all over the gay ol’ place. There’s a crooning butch on The Voice. Adele has been crowned Empress of the Universe (and Chris Brown Douchemaster Supreme). I’m co-founding a new social group for Boston area butches, bois, and studs.

Oh, you hadn’t heard about that last bit? That’s probably because you get all your news from After Ellen. Here’s the 411, son: Recently, I was commiserating with a friend and fellow MOC queer about the lack of a tight-knit butch community in Boston. There are plenty of us around, but no place where we can all hang out and actually have conversations about our lives and experiences (as opposed to the mean mugs or subtle head nods that we usually give each other in public). I was all like, “Whine, whine, whine, community, whine, whine,” and she was all like, “How about we start a meet up group?” and I was all like, “OMG BEST IDEA EVER YES.” And that, my friends, is how ButchBoi Life was born.

Here’s our official mission statement, because we’re fuckin’ professionals:

The mission of ButchBoi Life is to bring masculine-of-center identified women from different backgrounds together. It has become apparent that masculine identified women are struggling to gain visibility in the LGBTQ community. ButchBoi Life will provide a safe space for us to discuss the issues we face, socialize, and find others we can relate to.
Bi-weekly meetings will be held at various venues throughout the Boston area.

ButchBoi Life strives to maintain a safe space where all opinions and ideas are respected. We welcome individuals from all races, backgrounds, and masculine of center identities.

Pretty snazzy, huh? Each meeting, we’ll be tackling a new topic related to the masculine-of-center queer experience. Our first meeting will be held at the Blue Shirt Café in Somerville on Sunday, March 11th from 2:00-3:30 PM. The topic will be: “What was it like to come out as a butch/stud/boi?” As I like to call it, it’s the Second Coming Out, where you get to explain not just your sexual orientation, but your gender identity as well – whee!

If you’re a butch/boi/stud/MOC queer in the Boston area and you’d like to spend time with some really cool people (and me), please come down on the 11th and join us! Or if you know anybody who might be interested and (*gasp!*) doesn’t read this blog, spread the word. The more the merrier/rowdier/increasingly annoying to other patrons. Hope to see you there in all your butch glory!


3 thoughts on “Announcing ButchBoi Life: A Place for Bois Like Us

  1. Bren, I don’t live in the Boston area, but I found this blog while searching for some sort of butch or butch-femme online forum. I’m thirty, but just learning to own and love being totally butch (after years of being sort of nebulously gay). I have a wonderful femme girlfriend, but I need to find some good butch buddies online to talk with about butch-femme culture. Any suggestions? Help!

    • Hey there! Welcome to the brotherhood of butches, my friend. 🙂 Honestly, I’ve found the best butch buddies/community through social networks, especially Twitter. If you’re not already on there, you should join up!

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